Parents and friends, I need help. It’s definitely not a secret that I’m gay. I’m able to hold my head high and say it with pride, but it took 15 years to be able to accept myself in an environment that made me feel alienated and socially unacceptable. When I came out to my dad one year ago, he became angry with me that I had ‘lied’ to him the few times he asked about ever being gay in the first place. and continues to express these feelings. During the times he had asked though, was during the dark chapter of my life that made me feel isolated and alone. I obviously know different now, but this is where I need help:
Am I wrong to discredit my dad’s authority to know my sexual orientation when he demanded it? Should feel remorse for not coming out to him when I was ready? Or should I continue to justify my position that I needed to accept myself before allowing others to accept me.
Parents and friends, please respond.